December 30, 2006
Whats Holding You Back?
Have you ever asked yourself:
- Why can’t I make the changes I really want so desperately in my life?
- Why can’t I do it?
- Whats wrong with me?
- Whats holding me back?
If you’re not getting the results you want or expect out of your business or life, it is probably do to one (or more) of the following three things:
- Limiting beliefs
- Sabotaging Behaviors and Habits
- Inadequate structure conducive to change
These things are so very personal and deeply ingrained into our psychological make-up, addressing these often requires the assistance of a third party. Here’s why: “scotomisation” is the psychological tendency in people to see what they want to see and not see what they don’t want to see -in situations, in themselves, in anything- due to the psychological impact that seeing (or not seeing) would inflict.
Perception involves seeing and processing information through the filter of our intellect and our emotions. That’s why people often see the same thing differently. Scotomisation can be a false denial but also a false affirmation of our perceptions.
Psychiatrist R. D. Laing (1927-1989) describes scotomisation as a process of an individual psychologically denying the existence of anything they see with their own eyes that they really don’t want to see and hence don’t want to believe.
Laing writes in Interpersonal Perception (1966) that scotomisation is “our ability to develop selective blind spots regarding certain kinds of emotional or anxiety-producing events”.
I’ve said all this simply to point out that we all need the help of people who are not ‘emotionally invested’ in maintaining that list of 3 things that hold us back. That help can come from friends (although, sometimes not truly objective themselves), Counselors, Ministers, or (shameless plug coming) an Executive Coach. By the way, I know a good one if you are interested.
Have a Great and Prosperous 2007 filled with positive change!
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